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్ Download full The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World for free ಇ E-Pub Author Katie Hurley ಕ ్ Download full The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World for free ಇ E-Pub Author Katie Hurley ಕ INTRODUCTIONThe most important thing is to enjoy your lifeto be happyits all that matters.AUDREY HEPBURNOPEN A MAGAZINE, turn on daytime TV, or check in with your good friend Google for a minute and you are likely to find on any given day an endless list of parenting theories, books that will make parenting easier, calmer, or quieter, and blogs and articles galore that promise to make you a better parent Parenting experts crop up just about everywhere these days guilty as charged and there is no shortage of information out there when it comes to doing the job right or better or efficiently.Yes, somewhere along the way the word parent shifted from a noun, the role people fill when they have a child, to a verb, an action word that signifies the process of executing the most rewarding yet exhausting and frequently judged job in the world Gone are the days of come as you are parenting Parents today must keep up with a never ending list of parenting trends if they want to get the job done right Or so those books, magazines, and blogs would have you believe.What all of this information overload is missing, however, is the part about how the kids feel in all of thiswhat makes them thrive Book after book will teach you how to correct the thousands of things that can and will go wrong along this parenting journey, but very few books focus on raising happy kids.Did you know that happy kids enjoy better school performance, are successful when it comes to making and keeping friends, and boast better health overall Its true Harvard Universitybased happiness and success expert Shawn Achors research, chronicled in his popular book The Happiness Advantage, shows that a happy outlook and foundation leads to success.1 In his second book, Before Happiness, Achor asserts that in order to attain happiness, you need the right perspective.2 Achor believes that if parents work on their own happiness, they will raise happier and successful children as a result.There are a number of parenting books on the market that focus on putting an end to negative and frustrating behaviors And for good reason Parenting can be stressful Sleepless nights make for very tired and cranky and possibly prone to yelling mommies Lengthy tantrums are exhausting And back talking school age children have the potential to send even the most Zen mama running for cover Theres no doubt about it, parenting is hard work and sometimes a quick fix seems like the best answer But does the quick fix really hold up as children grow Its time to focus on raising happy kids instead Its time to build our kids up, give them the tools to lead with happiness, and make sure that they know how to jump through the hoops along the way should those hoops arise And its long past time to slow down, get back to the business of kids being kids, and put the small stuff into perspective Life is shortyou want your kids to live happy lives by learning to follow their passions, empathize with others, appreciate those around them, and manage and cope with their own stress.PART 1RAISING HAPPYOne of the most difficult parts of processing the parenting information out there is that all these theories and ideas make you feel like if you just do this or that, parenting will be a breeze Check in with any grandparent and I think youll find that parenting has never ever been a breeze Its a process It involves trial and error One size fits all parenting simply doesnt exist in this world And there is no retirement plan when it comes to parenting Once a parentalways a parent.Part 1 of The Happy Kid Handbook takes parents through a proactive approach to raising happy kids Beginning with understanding the childs temperament and parenting each child as an individual and moving through various positive behaviors, Part 1 of the book is all about building the childs pro social skills to raise happy kids Areas addressed include the power of play, understanding emotions, teaching forgiveness, building empathy and assertiveness skills, embracing differences, and cultivating passion.1Know Thy ChildToday you are You, that is truer than true There is no one alive who is Youer than You.DR SEUSSHAVING STUDIED CHILD DEVELOPMENT for years, helped countless parents work through their parenting struggles, and stood in front of parenting classes as the expert on hand, I was pretty certain that I could handle any parenting dilemma Stay calm, empathize often, and just keep swimming I was ready What I didnt count on was having kids with entirely different personalities.Im fairly introverted and my husband, Sean, is about the same despite the fact that he is, indeed, a very successful bass player and often plays in front of crowds of twenty thousand We can turn it on when we need to, but we dont mind hiding out and just spending time together At larger parties, youll find us hand in hand, moving from one small group to the next And then we head home for a glass of wine and some much needed quiet time All that small talk can be exhausting when what you really crave is some time on the couch and an episode or two of 30 Rock.We were both labeled shy as kids and we often spent time playing alone Sean was known to climb into his crib as a toddler We both preferred hanging out with a close friend versus a large group of friends We werent lonely kids we just didnt crave the interaction Our rich internal worlds kept us company.So it came as no surprise when our firstborn, Riley, seemed a little introverted around the edges What was a surprise was the amount of talking she did from the minute she learned how to talk Before she even celebrated her second birthday she was stringing together caveman like sentences and once she started, she never stopped At seven, she talks from 6 45 AM to 7 15 PM No exaggeration Its cute and funny and oh so sweet and we quickly adapted to having a nonstop talker who craves action An introvert in the outside world, she is anything but at home.But when she was just twenty one months old, her little brother was born And wow, was he a different child High intensity from the very first yelp, Liam had big feelings and he wasnt afraid to let the world know And as his personality began to emerge, we realized how different the two kids would be Also a talker, but only if he trusts you to listen, Liam doesnt go from dawn until dusk like his big sister He needs downtime and alone time and get out of my room and leave me alone time Where Riley tends to hang out somewhere in the middle of the introvert extrovert scale, Liam pretty much defines introversion He needs space to do puzzles, think about numbers, and play his drums At five, he still naps And when something is scary, frustrating, or confusing, his reaction is always the same big, loud, and long Riley tends to internalize her feelings until she cant hold them in any longer, but Liam lets them out with a fury Every Single Time While Sean and I like to joke about our own level of introversion, Liam takes it to a new level Big parties No, thank you Playgroups Im good one friend is fine Loud music, carnival rides, and screaming children running around Pass the noise canceling headphones and get me out of here In fact, lets just go ahead and stay home in case I dont like it He is the quintessential stay at home kid He feels safe and secure in the comfort of his house, surrounded by his toys, and the people who love him anyway.It didnt take long for us to realize that we couldnt simply set a list of rules and expectations and hope for the best We have two children with very different emotional needs While our daughter needs help slowing down and getting her feelings out, our son needs help coping with his very big feelings before they get even bigger Time out Not a chance That would leave her feeling lonely and him feeling lost Reward charts Only if they can be rewarded for very different behaviors and with a different set of standards He needs constant input she needs to learn to delay gratification Its complicated, at best.While some general rules work in our house bedtime never changes and TV time is scheduled , we have found that we truly need to adapt our parenting style for each of them Riley tends to worry at times, and needs a lot of one on one time to work through her worries to feel happy and confident At times, I feel guilty that she gets of me But Liam craves space He wants me nearby, but doesnt need constant input when hes calm Where he does need extra attention is when something goes wrong He can go from happy to utter frustration in seconds, and he needs piles of empathy and understanding to get through such an event He also needs love and cuddles on the other end.Whether you have one child or four, parenting is hard work Its only natural for parents to create some sort of ideal in their mindsa blueprint of how they want their families to be Some parents focus on academic success while others are concerned with family unity Whatever the parenting goal, it takes work and nonstop focus to get there There are no vacations in the world of parenting, after all.And its easy to get caught up in the busywork of parenting Between diapers, dishes, carpooling, and homework, there is always something that needs doing The seemingly meaningless and yet very essential tasks that need attending to each day are exhausting Parenting is full of to do lists.In all this running and doing and shuffling and accomplishing, parents often set a list of behavioral expectations for their children These are the rules its up to you to follow them It makes sense, when you stop to think about it Rules and structure help kids thrive When children know what to expect each day, they are better able to meet the expectations and they experience less anxiety overall In theory, it makes for happy kids.Heres the catch No two kids are exactly the same And while a general blueprint of rules and expectations takes the guesswork out of each day, children also need the opportunity to simply be themselves While some kids seem to come out of the womb oozing empathy, others tend to be a bit self centered during childhood While some children can cope with frustration without much drama, others scream and flail when something goes awry In all likelihood, you can have three kids with three very different personalities How can each kid shine when they are all bound by a general set of rules and standards with no room for change We have to parent the individual.While a general list of rules about keeping your hands to yourself, using kind words, and not bossing others works for most kids, it helps to consider the temperament of each child before creating a master list of house rules A high intensity child, for example, is likely to be prone to yelling in frustration when things arent going his way I would know I have one of those A no yelling rule is a setup for failure for a child who tends to experience big emotions It takes time, practice, and a lot of patience to work through those big emotions and learn to react in a smaller way, and it wouldnt be fair to hand out consequences each time a high intensity child raises his voice.If you have a creative daydreamer on your hands, you might want to think twice about a following directions the first time kind of rule in your home What might look like a child who simply isnt listening might actually be a child lost in thought, dreaming about her next great work of art Kids who daydream tend to completely check out while lost in thought They truly dont hear what youre saying Instead of coming down on your little daydreamer for poor listening skills, it would be effective to come up with verbal and nonverbal cues tapping on the table twice, for instance, or simply saying, When youre finished with your thought, I need your help to help keep your child on track.And anxious children can only handle so much criticism Kids who struggle with anxious feelings are their own worst critics They already come down on themselves for breaking rules or forgetting important tasks Public reprimands can really crush their spirits Its best to review expectations one on one in the case of an anxious child and help your child come up with solutions to avoid repeating the behavior in the future.Teaching to individual strengths comes up a lot in academic settings Parents often wish that teachers would focus on strengths based teaching for each individual child instead of simply teaching to standards It makes a lot of sense Kids have different areas of strength And while its important to teach the basics to each child, it would also be great to help children hone their specific skills early on.Parenting isnt much different.Sure, youre not teaching literacy skills or something completely anxiety producing like long division Do they still teach that Please say no But parenting does involve a teaching component With an end goal of independence, there are a lot of skills that require mastery along the way And chances are that your children will master different skills at different levels.How many times have you heard another parent describe an infant or toddler as an old soul, a free spirit, or a worrywart As parents, we tend to create labels for kids and explain their behaviors or tendencies before another person has even spent a minute with the child What we are really saying is, This child is different She has her own unique personality As parents, we recognize that all children are not exactly the same.So why on earth would we parent them in exactly the same manner Social convention often pressures us into having certain behavioral expectations for our kids It can be hard to parent the quirky child who doesnt seem to fit any mold, but when we force our children to act a certain way, we are really asking them to act in ways that run counter to what feels natural to them Some kids truly dont want to go on playdates They might find them overwhelming They might find them underwhelming Or they might get all the social interaction they need in preschool or school each day Liam has yet to ask for a playdate He sees kids at the park and at preschool, and thats enough I learned to stop scheduling them He will tell me when hes ready, that much I know for certain.When we meet children where they are and focus on their individual needs, we send the message that we understand them Helping anxious children find ways to work through their worries instead of brushing them off, for instance, shows them that you take their worries seriously When we stop overscheduling kids who need extra downtime, we show them that we get itthey need a break and we can work that into our busy lives When we take the time to teach our high intensity kids how to manage those big and scary emotions, we show them that we know that life is hard and sometimes you just need help Theres a lot to be said for understanding their strengths and accepting their limitations.And before you start hearing the chorus of Thats not fair in your head that you probably hear seven billion times a day, remember this Fair isnt about everyone having exactly the same thing Fair is about everyone having their needs met Kids might rely on black and white thinking when it comes to fair and unfair, but fair is very much filled with shades of gray And its okay to teach your kids about those shades of gray Explaining their differences and showing them that you are raising each of them in a way that best suits them teaches them a valuable lesson about embracing people for who they are.Fair, as it turns out, is increasing your childs happiness by figuring out who your child really is.While we all enter into this job with some preconceived notions about how it will go, the truth is that we cant be certain about the best way to parent our children until we actually get to know them And if we want to raise happy kids We have to parent the kids we have.It would be foolish, of course, to pretend that this is easy With multiple kids come multiple obstacles on any given day, and that is just plain hard A structured day helps keep everyone on task and there are some rules that just arent negotiable no physical aggression comes to mind, and screen time should be limited It takes time and practice to find what works for each child, and you just cant get it right every time But you can work on finding a happy place for each child in the family.So how do we parent the individual and find happiness for all in a house full of kids with busy schedules and nonstop action We begin by understanding their personalities.Introvert, Extrovert, or Some Other Vert A common mistake when it comes to discussion of personality is to rely on either or thinking I hear it in my office a lot, but I hear it on the playground just as much When a child is outgoing and jumps right in, the parent is quick to label that child an extrovert Which makes the quieter, less likely to jump into the new situation little brother the family introvert.While the general labels might very well apply, its useful to think of introversion and extroversion as a scale Different kids have different personalities, and sometimes their personality traits shift based on environmental factors, social situations, and even time of day.The truth is that everybody has a little bit of both And some children truly change day to day That child who clams up at the huge birthday party just might be the life of the party in the comfort of his own home, surrounded by close friends like my little Riley And the one who talks nonstop and wants to be surrounded by friends at all times might break down and sob uncontrollably when shes running on low energy, because even those who lean toward the extroverted end of the scale need a break sometimes.Everyone needs both time alone and time spent with other people The difference between introverts and extroverts is how much time they need of each to thrive When you slow down long enough to truly observe each child and watch their patterns, you begin to recognize how much of each your children really need Dragging that introvert to three parties in one weekend is like taking him into battle, mamas that one needs plenty of puzzles and independent play to recharge When the expectations placed upon kids are in sync with their specific personalities, kids experience self confidence, a sense of accomplishment, and greater happiness.Raising happy kids means striking the right balance for each child in the family, even if that means that you deal with the chorus of Its not fair from time to time.So You Think You Have an Introvert Kids who hang out on the introverted side of the personality scale tend to exhibit a few of these behaviors Take a wait and watch attitudeObserve and process a new scenario before enteringNeed time to get acclimated, even among friends and close relativesGet involved in stages watch first, talk about it, then join Can appear anxiousCan seem aloof, indifferent, or even rude because they often wait until they are comfortable before they interact with othersTend to concentrate on one person or one activity at a timeStruggle with transitions big and small Think before they speak most of the time, anyway Need time to recover from loud or overwhelming eventsNo matter how strong their preference for introversion, whether they are extroverted some of the time or completely introverted all the time, these kids need downtime Time spent around other kids is fun and engaging, but completely exhausting They get their energy from time spent alone, when they can truly think their own thoughts.Introverted children sometimes confuse their parents because they might actually appear fairly extroverted some of the time, but then clam up the minute they are thrown into a big party or a brand new situation, even with friendly faces around Thats where the introversion extroversion scale comes in handy Most children have moments of both, but when we learn to determine their individual needs, we can lead them toward a happy medium And that helps us to raise happy kids.Tips for Raising an Introverted ChildRespect Their PrivacyIntroverted children tend to have very rich internal worlds Time spent alone with their thoughts and ideas energizes them The single most important thing that you can do for your introverted child is to respect this.They will ask you to play and they will play with other friends and siblings at times, but they might not include you in every little detail of their inner worlds Thats okay They need that time to think, create, and just be alone When you let them have that, you send the message that you understand.Try to factor in at least forty five minutes of downtime for your introverted child each day When life is extra busy and sends your child running from activity to activity, increase the amount of downtime They need this time to process what theyve experienced and to reenergize They will reemerge happier for it, thats for sure.Respect Their PreferencesWe live in a very social world these days It used to be that you invited seven or eight kids to a birthday party now the expectation seems to be that you invite the entire class and their siblings And playdates Theyve taken on a whole new meaning The traditional hang out with a neighborhood bestie for a little while playdate of days past seems to have morphed into open ended, long afternoons with playgroups While some kids do enjoy these larger and longer playdates, introverted children do not.Introverted children tend to stick to one or two close friends, and do not need daily playdates Take a deep breath, concerned parents Playdate refusal and avoiding large groups are not behaviors indicative of a child who struggles to socialize Introverted children just happen to thrive when they are one on one, and they dont crave extra playdates To the introvert, a day at school is positively exhausting Legos and dolls in the comfort of their own rooms can be a very welcome relief They are perfectly happy just playing alone As for their birthday parties Discuss before you plan They are likely to ask for a small gathering or simply a family party Thats perfectly normal and should be respected Happiness is feeling heard.Understand Their EmotionsIntroverted children tend to big shock coming process their feelings internally Counter to their extroverted siblings, they might not blurt out their feelings every minute of every day But they still experience the same shifting emotions as other kids.Because they dont necessarily get their feelings out, introverts sometimes experience big meltdowns or tantrums While a meltdown might appear to be related to a specific trigger, often its just the final straw after a series of unspoken frustrations, worries, and overwhelming feelings Once you understand this about your child, you can help your child learn to express his or her feelings throughout the day.Create a feelings book Give your child a stack of paper with one feeling written on each page e.g happy, sad, excited, frustrated, lonely, angry, etc Ask him to draw a picture of or write a description about a time when he felt each way When the pages are complete, staple them into a book, read it out loud, and discuss each page.Feelings Bingo This is a good one for kids who dont like to draw Make Bingo boards you can download these templates using feelings faces in the boxes Call out the feelings to mark off on the board When the winner calls Bingo discuss each feeling marked off on the board.As important as it is to teach introverts to express their feelings, its also important to normalize those big feelings Given that introverted kids tend to keep their feelings hidden, they often fail to seek help from adults They need to know that all feelings and emotions are okay and a part of growing up Normalizing their experiences helps them feel a little less overwhelmed in what often feels like a very overwhelming world.Understand How They ThinkAs weve already established, introverted children tend to get lost in thought They also like to think things through before they speak Especially before they commit to something that they might not actually want to do The problem is that this quiet thought process is often misinterpreted as daydreaming or inattention Particularly in the classroom setting.Bottom line Introverted kids need time to think Demanding an immediate answer from an introvert is akin to telling your extroverted child to just sit still for once Their brains need time to process the information and come up with an answer that makes sense to them.With that in mind, there are a couple of things you can do to decrease the frustration, and increase the happiness, on both ends.Factor in extra time when you make schedule changes or need information as in, what are you doing for that mandatory talent show.Provide plenty of warnings for comings and goings and activity changes.Use timers to keep your child focused and on track That iPhone certainly comes in handy for parenting, doesnt it Expect big conversations to sleep over or not to sleep over to take place over a few days Give your child time to come back to you with thoughts and questions.Warn all teachers and caregiversexplain the best way to connect with your child.Dont push for immediate answerseven when it comes to poor choices They need time to process before they are able to discuss and move forward.Prepare Them for EventsGiven the overwhelming nature of large and unpredictable events in the mind of your little introvert, you simply cant expect them to jump right into the bounce house with masses of giggling, screaming kids And if they didnt even know that bounce house was happening They just might fall apart before they even get out of the car.Introverted children become physically overwhelmed by sight, sound, and touch The party that seems to offer endless opportunity for fun for one child is likely to cause anxiety and panic for an introverted child The real reason they hide behind you or cling desperately to your pants has less to do with fear of socializing and to do with sensory overload.While most parents seem to expect or at least hope want their kids to simply join in and enjoy the fun, introverted children need much preparation and close supervision in order to take part in the celebration.How, exactly, do you prepare your child for these sorts of fun but mostly overwhelming events With a few easy stepsDescribe the event in as much detail as you can, at least one day in advance Food, games, bounce houses, you name it Let them know whats happening.Observe Begin by simply letting them watch.Practice The great thing about role playing is that you can do it anywhere Practice ways to enter a group.Help Stay close and walk your child into the event or group play Hang close until your child is settled.Go Move back and talk to the other parents.Safety word It can help to have your child choose a safety code word in advance If it gets to be too much he can just utter the word and out you go.Try to keep the big social outings short and sweet All that overload is exhausting for an introverted child.Understand How They SocializeIntroverts, in general, arent big on small talk.Salutations and idle chitchat feel like a huge waste of time to an introvert, who has likely been thinking about one particular topic for quite some time and would like to cut to the chase Resist the urge to cut your child off and force him to go back to the social graces period of the conversation Introverts are the happiest when they can finish their thoughts to completion Let them speak Then revisit the basic conversational skills by role playing specific conversation starters Hi How are you Did you have a good day followed by I learned something interesting todayIts very important to avoid public behavioral corrections with introverts While they might sometimes make the wrong choice or forget their manners when theyre on a roll, they do embarrass easily They internalize these moments and shut down in response Also, that amazing story that you interrupted because you worried about how someone else might judge his behavior took a lot of thought and effort You want your child to gradually feel comfortable with these interactions over time Its best to support them in the moment, and then pull them aside to discuss any behavioral issues.Teach FlexibilityIntroverts tend to dig in their heels when they want what they want In short, they can be stubborn At home, it might not be such an issue But at school Yikes Flexibility is required Sometimes things change without much warning, and kids need to be able to accept those changes.Use a calming phrase Repeating a calming phrase over and over when your child becomes upset about a change cues your child that you understand that its hard, but you will help him through it When the usual daily routine is interrupted due to travel, for instance, you might want to soothe your child by saying, I know you miss your regular routine, but Mom is always here to help Together, we can get through this For an older child you can simply shorten this to, Together we can handle anything.Transition boards Create a felt board or use a dry erase board with symbols that represent parts of your typical daily schedule Make small changes each day and show your child that schedules and routines can change.Friendship map When an introvert feels abandoned by a friend, it can be devastating Because introverted children tend to stick to a close group, it can really hurt when a friend chooses a new friend for a day Draw a friendship map that includes all the kids your child might enjoy Talk about the fact that friends sometimes switch places on the map from day to day, but that doesnt mean that the friendship is over You can have fun and enjoy one friend one day, and another friend the next.When introverted children learn that they wont break every time they bend, they experience higher self confidence because they realize that they are capable of coping with change This self confidence leads to greater happiness and less anxiety throughout the day.Give up Some ControlThe great thing about living in your own little introverted world is that you have complete control over it Thats not, however, how the real world works At all In the real world, introverted children are constantly trying to measure up to other peoples standards and follow what might feel like complicated lists of rules Bottom line They have no control.Giving introverted kids some control over their lives not only builds their independence, it reduces their stress and increases their happiness Its not that they have to be in charge of every little thing, its that they need to feel like they can make some choices and have some control Allowing your child to assist with meal planning once a week is a great place to start Consider allowing your child to organize her room in a way that is meaningful to her, choose her own clothing as long as she dresses for the weather , and decide which birthday parties and school events she would like to attend.Giving introverted children the power of choice, and sometimes even the power of veto, relieves them of the stress that can trigger anxious and isolating behaviors It tells them that we understand them and we want to make choices that actually work for them, not just for us And that makes them feel happy.Factor in One on One TimeThe upside of parenting an introvert is that they do crave a lot of independent playtime Suddenly things like showers and laundry feel doable on a daily basis The downside is that, unless you really stay connected, you might accidentally experience a moment when you realize suddenly that you havent spent much time with your introvert this week.Unlike their louder, very vocal siblings, introverted children dont always cry out for one on one attention But they need it just the same When they dont have enough one on one parent time, they are likely to internalize feelings of sadness, anger, and even anxiety They feel left out Wheres the happiness in that Carve out special time with your introverted child A fixed special time schedule tends to work well, as it takes the guesswork out of it for your child and decreases any anticipatory anxiety Let your child choose the game, destination, or project and turn off all electronic devices I guarantee that you will learn about your introverted child during these special time sessions than you will during the rest of the week.Added bonus Special time is guaranteed to increase the smiles and happiness When children feel loved and understood, they also feel happy.Promote InterestsSocial convention tells us to focus on raising well rounded kids They have to be good at just about everything to really have a shot at a good future Or so we are led to believe.Introverted children tend to have just a few interests, but they really thrive when they are able to showcase those interests Take an interest in your childs interests Get books on the subject Take field trips that relate Ask as many questions as you can and truly listen to the answers Repeat the information back to your child so that he knows you are listening.As parents, its up to us to let go of the fear of others passing judgment So what if your five year old thinks about NASA 24 7 Is he happy Does he come to life when given the opportunity to share his knowledge and show you his latest Lego rocket creation Thats all that matters When you let your introvert embrace his true passions, you send a very positive message And that message is critical to your childs happiness.While focusing on a few interests is important to introverted children, cultivating passion is actually important for all children See Chapter 8 for on increasing happiness by way of cultivating passion.Or Maybe Youre Raising an ExtrovertLife with an extroverted child is action packed Doers by nature, these kids like to go, go, go At times you might find yourself wondering if your extrovert might one day run out of things to say Not a chance Your little talking machine draws energy from those around her She craves stimulation and interaction to recharge her batteries.On the bright side, you will know every single thing that happens to your child at school every minute of every day No creative questioning needed for this one On the less bright side, the constant input can be exhausting Dont fret, tired mamas, there are always ways to restore balance to the family while keeping a smile on each face.Kids on the extroverted side of the personality scale tend to exhibit a few of these behaviors Think out loud Extroverts tend to think while they talk It might sound like nonsense at times, but its all part of the thought process Act first, then reflect on what theyve experiencedJump into new social situationsCrave playmates and conversationDirect their energy outwardCrave variety and actionAre expressive and enthusiasticFind energy in large groupsExtroverts can seem like they are constantly on the move and directing their energy so many places that they cant possibly have any kind of focus You often hear them described as spirited or high energy While they do tend to be energetic little beings with a lot to say about everything, that doesnt mean that they lack focus Their thought process is such that they need to talk their way through things and take a hands on, action based approach to find their focus With a little help, they can learn to let their wonderful spirit guide them toward their goals and aspirations, while smiling all the way.Tips for Raising Extroverted ChildrenEmbrace Their Social NatureTo shut down an extrovert is to completely crush her spirit Being with other people and getting their ideas and thoughts out into the open is what recharges extroverts They feel their best, and experience the most happiness, when they are encouraged to do what they do besttalk and get their energy out.With that in mind, its best to allow for plenty of social interaction for your extroverted child They thrive in groups and love to move Try to avoid highly structured social gatherings, as these can feel limiting to an extroverted child Remember, sitting still and following a specific set of rules in school all day can drain an extrovert Freedom to chat, express their thoughts and ideas, and move is crucial to feeling energized and happy.And not all social gatherings require planning Extroverted children tend to enjoy meeting new people An impromptu trip to the local park is just as energizing and exciting as a playdate with ten close friends.Emotional OverloadGiven their tendency to wear their feelings on their sleeves, extroverted children can appear emotionally overloaded at times Its important to remember that talking and sharing is how extroverted children process and work through their feelings and emotions Try not to jump to conclusions about their emotional well being often they just need a good old fashioned brain dump to get their feelings out Life can be overwhelming for kids at times Thats perfectly normal under even the best conditions Once they learn to release and make sense of their emotions, they are likely to experience happiness Refer to Chapter 3 for on understanding emotion With that in mind, there are a couple of activities your child can use to get those feelings out in a meaningful way The visuals created by these activities can stay with your child long after the activity is complete if you hang them on the wall or paste them into a notebook The color of feelings Have your child assign a color to each feeling they experienced during the day red for angry, blue for sad, etc On a plain white piece of paper, ask your child to color as much of each feeling that she experienced during the day If she was angry or frustrated a lot, the page might be covered in red, for example After the coloring is complete, talk about what might have caused those feelings and what your child can do differently the next time.Rain sun fog Its no big secret that the weather can affect mood, but weather also makes a great metaphor for feelings Fold a paper into thirds and draw a sun on one panel, a rainstorm on a second, and a foggy day on the third Ask your child to tell you what things made her feel sunny and happy, what made her feel sad or angry and rainy, and what left her feeling in between Write them in the appropriate panel Talk about ways to increase the sunny feelings the next day.Help Channel the EnergyWhile some parents, particularly introverted ones, can find raising an extroverted chatterbox an exhausting task, its important to remain patient and help them work through their extroverted energy.Think out loud with them to help them find the solution to a problem Or try chatting while engaged in building and crafting projects They work best and feel happiest when actively sharing with others.Extroverts need to direct their energy outward Its what helps them find balance Help your little extrovert find activities that both meet that need and make her happy Plays, puppet shows, and comedy routines all provide both a creative outlet and an audience Building projects and arts and crafts are other great places to direct that energy and provide the opportunity to connect and talk during the process And, if youre up for it, consider allowing your child to create a series of how to videos You are likely to get lessons in everything from throwing a perfect tea party to proper swinging form Funny and engaging.Be sure to allow for plenty of physical activity Observe your child carefully to determine what kind of physical activity is the best fit While some extroverted children crave the social aspect of team sports, others might feel restricted by rules and regulations The best way to ensure the best fit is to simply talk it over with your child Not to worry, she will happily oblige.Teach Relaxation SkillsAlthough they dont like to admit it, extroverts need downtime, too But some extroverted children simply dont know how to relax Complete silence or flipping through books also known as the introverts paradise threatens to deplete the extrovert of energy An extrovert needs sensory input and stimulation.But there are ways to teach children the art of relaxing in an extroverted manner Quiet time is beneficial to an extroverted child in that it teaches her that she can be aloneshe doesnt need an audience every minute of the day While many extroverts find themselves wondering why anyone would ever want to be alone, the fact is that people are alone at times Learning how to be alone is a valuable skill.Try guided relaxation There are several programs and apps that will talk your child through a five to ten minute guided relaxation, complete with interesting nature sounds and pleasant imagery The Simply Being app is by far my favorite Try Ready Set R.E.L.A.X.a relaxation program for children that teaches progressive muscle relaxation and uses guided imagery in kid friendly scripts.3Rely on audio books to keep reading interesting.Help your child find music that she likes and encourage her to just listen and dance on her own.Consider a child friendly yoga DVD.Jump ropes and swings are both solo activities that can prove relaxing for extroverted children.Clay stimulates muscles and helps relieve pent up stress and emotion.Teach Active Listening SkillsSometimes extroverted children have so much to say they simply forget to stop and listen While they might be able to talk nonstop at home, this can become a problem at school, on teams, or in other classes They do need to learn the art of give and take when it comes to conversational skills And they really need to understand when its best to just listen for a little bit like, say, when the teacher is busy teaching.The best way to teach listening skills is to model them We tend to get frustrated when we feel like our kids arent listening, but how often do we hit the autopilot and simply respond with wow or uh huh at the appropriate intervals When our children are talking, we have to stop what were doing, maintain eye contact, and ask appropriate follow up questions.Here are a few strategies you can work into family life to hone those active listening skills This practical and highly workable handbook details a broad selection of delightfully creative strategies for helping kids learn from play, manage strong emotions constructively, learn to forgive and empathize, build assertiveness, and accept difference in themselves and others Highly recommended for people who seek a parenting orientation rather than a method but still want a substantial toolbox of specific activities to use in understanding and connecting with their children Publishers WeeklyA clear and thoughtful approach to parenting your individual child In a world full of stresses on parents and children, what a relief to read about parenting strategies that focus on my unique child, and on raising an empathetic, happy, and confident person I would highly recommend this book for all the individual parents and their one of a kind kids Idina Menzel, Tony Award winning actress and singer The Happy Kid Handbook is a must read for parents who want joyful households without all the stress of perfect parenting Soleil Moon Frye, author of Happy Chaos and Lets Get This Party Started Any mother of big kids will tell you that the exhausting days of infancy were a breeze I love Katie s real life approach to surviving our children s childhood, and being the best parents we can for them Here s to happy kids and sane parents Jill Smokler, 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    • Format Kindle
    • 320 pages
    • 0399171819
    • The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World
    • Katie Hurley
    • Anglais
    • 2016-02-25T01:38+03:00